University of South Carolina School of Medicine upgrades gom
(NC)—The World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that over 80% of the world's population satisfy their primary health care needs with traditional herbal medicines. These medicinal plant preparations, passed on and proven through generations of healers, are the oldest known form of health care.
Herbal medicines, although not common for primary health care in North America, are growing in acceptance both as preventative and supplemental alternatives. Often these medicinal plant preparations are most effectively delivered as "medicinal teas". With consistently good results dating back hundreds of years these healing teas are best described as strong medicine.
Several medicinal tea preparations can be found under the BIJA name that can be enjoyed daily as immune boosting preventatives or, if caught with our guard down, effective treatments for cold and flu symptoms.
BIJA's Lemon, Ginger and Echinacea preparation works to strengthen the immune system and helps to fight colds in a number of ways. Echinacea has the ability to increase
1. Be Persuasive
It's hard to force your boss to increase your compensation, and trying to do so can potentially damage your working relationship. Think about the process as trying to convince him that it might benefit the organization to pay you more.
2. Aim High, and Be Realistic
Many researchers have found a strong correlation between people's aspirations and the results they achieve in negotiation. At the same time, you want to suggest ideas to which your boss can realistically say yes.
3. Start Off with the Right Tone
You want to let your boss know you will listen and try to understand his views. At the same time, you expect your boss to do the same for you so you can work together to address this issue. Avoid ultimatums, threats and other coercive behavior.
4. Clarify Your Interests
Your compensation should satisfy a range of needs, not just salary. Make sure you have thought about other points of value to you as well -- like profit sharing, stock options that vest immediately, a bonus, greater work responsibilities, a quicker promotion schedule, increased vacation or flexible hours.
5. Anticipate Your Boss's Interests
Just like you, your boss has needs and concerns. To persuade him to say yes, your ideas will have to address those things that are important to him.
6. Create Several Options
Joint brainstorming is the most effective way to find ideas that satisfy everyone's interests. It works best when you separate it from commitment -- first create possible solutions, and then decide among them.
7. Focus on Objective Criteria
It is far easier to persuade someone to agree with your proposal if he sees how that proposal is firmly grounded on objective criteria, such as what similar firms pay people of like experience or what others in the company make.
8. Think Through Your Alternatives
In case you cannot persuade your boss to say yes, you need to have a backup plan. Part of preparation is creating a specific action plan so you know what you'll do if you have to walk away from the table.
9. Prepare Thoughtfully to Achieve Your Goals
This is the only aspect of your negotiations you can completely control. To take advantage of all of the above advice, you have to invest a significant amount of your time and energy.
10. Review to Learn
The only way you can really improve your ability to negotiate is to explicitly learn from your experiences. After you finish negotiations, reflect on what you did that worked well and what you might want to do differently next time.
Lately our everyday reality seems to leave little room for optimism. People around the world are suffering from very real natural and personal crises. Our TV’s and newspapers are packed with sadness and fear.
In times like these it is very important to hold tight to a powerful life success tool – optimism.
Why optimism? Because optimism activates your amygdala (pronounced ahh-mig-da-la) -- a very important part of your brain that increases your ability to create positive answers to life's challenges.
So what is Optimism?
Optimism is actually a refined mental style of how one chooses to respond to life. Webster’s Dictionary defines optimism as “an inclination to put the most favorable construction upon actions and events, or to anticipate the best possible outcome.”
But you might fairly ask how you can be optimistic in the face of today’s often overwhelming challenges?
So let’s face it, life can be very tough at times. But even in the midst of personal turmoil and overwhelming crisis, the same thing holds true: We choose how to interpret what is happening to and around us, and we also choose how we will respond.
Our Greatest Life-Success Power
Virtually everything happening to you right now offers this choice. And it doesn’t even matter if that thing is “good” or “bad.” Even if something undesirable happens, you still have the power to choose how you will interpret and respond to that event.
It’s admitedly easy to feel overwhelmed at times, and fall into a habit of making non-optimistic choices. Such an “attitude meltdown” often comes hand-in-hand with chronic or overwhelming stress. But each moment you DO have a choice to either let life wear you down, or to set your mind in a more positive direction.
Mayo Clinic researcher Dr. Toshihiko Maruta reports that optimists have a dramatically higher level of physical and mental functioning than pessimists. "How you perceive what goes on around you and how you interpret it has an impact on your longevity, and also affect the quality of your entire life."
The Optimism-Financial Success Connection
Why do I say this? Ask almost any self-made millionaire about their path to prosperity and you’ll get a similar story: Just like learning any other skill, learning to create lasting financial success is learned. And the learning process is based on trial and error.
Consider the term “trial and error.” A “trial” means you’re going to try a lot of different approaches to achieving financial success, and “error” means not all of them are going to work.
I’ve personally been there myself. On my personal path to creating financial independence I’ve tried many different approaches. Some of these trials have been successful, but many have led straight into out-and-out struggles. And have there been errors along the way? Oh yes!
Here’s the big lesson I’ve learned along the way: One of the most important tools in your “financial health tool bag” is the ability to remain optimistic. There are other important tools to be sure … like passion, drive and focus. But without optimism, you’ll never get beyond where you are today.
But optimism isn’t about denying reality. And it isn’t about being idealistic, or chasing after some totally unrealistic condition or situation
“Intelligent Optimism”
But most psychologists agree that the aptitude for optimism is not genetically determined. In other words, anyone can learn to be optimistic. All it requires is a good grasp of reality, along with practice.
In a very interesting cover story, the French magazine Psychologies (January 2005) suggested we focus on "intelligent optimism." According to their insight:
Intelligent optimists don’t deny problems, they adjust to them while still seeking an opportunity for progress.
Intelligent optimists don’t allow themselves to get carried away by circumstances they can’t change. They instead focus on things within their grasp, and that they can enjoy.
Intelligent optimists also know that for every problem there is (at least the beginning of) a solution, and that the search for that solution can be inspirational in itself.
Intelligent optimists are also not afraid of negative thoughts, which they realize are just internal messages they can choose to either listen to, or reject.
Just Nod “Yes”
But here’s an interesting tool that can move you along even faster: Learn how to activate key portions of your brain by nodding your head “yes.” A recent Ohio State University study proved that nodding or shaking your head serves as "self-validation" that confirms to yourself how you feel about your own thoughts.
The researchers found that nodding your head up and down is, in effect, telling yourself that you have confidence in your own thoughts, And it's important to note that this is true whether those thoughts are positive or negative. Shaking your head does the opposite: It gives you less confidence in your own thoughts.
“One of the most surprising things we found,” explained lead researcher Dr Petty, “is that if you're thinking negative thoughts while you're nodding, this actually strengthens your disapproval. What head nodding does in this case is increase your confidence in your negative thoughts. In contrast, when the thoughts were mostly positive, then nodding increases confidence in your positive thoughts.”
Try this: As you go about your day today, be aware of how you are responding to what is happening around you. Try making a conscious choice to respond, rather than just automatically react in your customary way. And nod your head to remind yourself that you are holding a positive, "intelligent optimist" attitude.
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The game of tennis is a great example! You’re out on the court with a friend. She’s been burning up the court with blistering serves. But you’ve hung in there, and won the set by returning some great shots.
But now it’s your turn to serve. You try to brush away the memory of the last time you played -- when your serve suddenly went “bad” on you. For some unknown reason, you just couldn’t keep the ball above the net.
You bounce the ball a couple of times, then wind up and toss it up for a serve.
But even before the strings touch the ball, you already KNOW what’s going to happen.
You set your teeth as the ball slams into the net just like it did last week. You shake your head. “Not again.” You moan. “What has gone wrong?”
And of course, your second serve is almost identical to the first. This is what tennis players, golfers, and other athletes call being “off their game.”
Being “off your game” in any aspect of life is caused by what I call a “future memory.” The term “future memories” may seem odd, but it’s a natural mental process. A “future memory” is basically a picture of yourself in the future. And the truth is, you’re creating such memories virtually every day.
There’s an old saying: “In life -- we get what we focus on.” And now neuroscientists have discovered the truth behind that axiom.
Here’s what’s happening: Your subconscious mind will automatically work to manifest your mental “picture” of what seems appropriate in your life.
If you feel you are “off your game,” you reinforce a mental expectation you will continue to be off your game! Now your subconscious mind does not “think” in the same sense your conscious, rational mind does. The subconscious mind actually takes “directions” from your conscious mind, and orders your body to carry out those directions.
Your feeling of being “off your game” is seen as a direction from your conscious mind.
Your subconscious mind instantly “gets the picture” from stored memories that support that “direction.” In effect, it creates a “future memory” of how you are about to respond – then sends actual neural messages to your brain’s “motor centers” to reproduce a tennis serve that will slam into the net.
It’s important to appreciate the fact that “future memories” are a physical brain reality. This is not just a psychological construct!
Years of research by behavioral scientists has clearly proven that mental rehearsal *alone* creates actual improvements in both sports and intellectual activities.
How can this be so?
Recent scientific PET (positron-emission tomography) scans have provided fascinating scientific proof of the power of mental rehearsal.
Pet scan images of the brain activity associated with just *thinking* about moving an arm – truly activate areas of the brain associated with *actual* arm movements.
What does this mean? In practical terms, you can use mental imagery to “pre-program” your mind by “practicing” the positive effects you want in your life.
The other thing you’ll want to remember is this: Your subconscious mind is the product of your physical brain! It’s not some concept that floats around somewhere out in space!
And what neuroscientists have discovered about the physical brain is this: It is not the “rigid structure” it was once thought to be. We now know that the brain is “plastic.” It constantly changes to fit your current (and currently expected) environment.
And the evidence is that like muscles, the brain too follows the rule of “use it or lose it.”
If you consciously focus on “future memories” of success, they will be seen by your subconscious mind as actual instructions. Your mind responds by building actual neural networks to hold those instructions. And the more often you send those “future memory” instructions – the stronger those positive neural networks will grow.
So truly, we actually ARE what we think. Use positive future memories to create what you want in your life – and starve the old neural networks holding any memories of limitations.
Your daily “reality” is a direct reflection of these future memories. Whatever you consciously or unconsciously focus on, whether positive or negative, will gain strength.
Any life improvement must begin with an improvement in your ability to use “future memories.” Those who are successful are those who continually focus on the life they want to lead. Those who are unsuccessful continually focus on what they do *not* want. And what you focus on gains power from stronger, more stable physical neural networks
Put modern neuroscience to work to create the life you want! Apply the science of future memories in your life. Get your copy of “Visualize Success: The Science of Future Memories” by Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler. Click here: www.quantum-self.com/visualize.htm
Feelings of stress are part and parcel of everyday life and in many situations stress can actually be good for us. In emergencies for example stress is nothing more than the body's instinctive reaction to defend itself. It is stress therefore that would cause us to jump out of the way if we saw a car hurtling towards us at high speed.
Stress however is not always a good thing and, if we find ourselves under stress for any length of time, it can start to result in physical symptoms such as headaches, back pain, shortness of breath, an upset stomach and insomnia, to name just a few. So, how can you manage stress in this sort of situation?
Here are 10 tips to help you to cope with life's challenges.
Meditation is the art of focusing 100% of your attention in one area. The practice comes with a myriad of well-publicized health benefits including increased concentration, decreased anxiety, and a general feeling of happiness.
Although a great number of people try meditation at some point in their lives, a small percentage actually stick with it for the long-term. This is unfortunate, and a possible reason is that many beginners do not begin with a mindset needed to make the practice sustainable.
The purpose of this article is to provide 20 practical recommendations to help beginners get past the initial hurdles and integrate meditation over the long term:
Although there are ways to ease some symptoms of depression, sometimes medication therapy is needed for a person to fully enjoy a life without depression. However, there are some free tips that you can try if you have the blues.
1. Speak with Someone
2. Start an Exercise Program
3. Eat Fresh
4. Avoid Sugar
5. Avoid caffeine
6. Avoid Nicotine
7. Meditation Helps
8. Sleep
9. Lighten Up
10. Adopt a Pet
Spencer Hunt is a wellness consultant who has used glyconutritionals to help clients with Alzheimers, diabetes, Lupus, or to just have more energy http://www.ifoundhealth.com.
I don't even like boxing, but I got to tell you I learned a lot from Rocky and Sylvester Stallone about creating your own success.
In anticipation of the 6th sequel in the Rocky series, 'Rocky Balboa', my husband and I watched all five Rocky movies (one day we even watched four in a row!) to get up to speed with development of the character and his story. This is quite basic: underdog hero experiences tough times, receives a challenge that questions his manhood and sense of what is 'right' and 'wrong', intense training scenes showing incredible physique, and a close, tough fighting scene with a feel good 'victory' for Rocky - the 'people's hero'.
It's not the story line or the films themselves that are as much an inspiration as Sylvester's Stallone's own story of rags to riches as a punk, nobody actor and screenwriter to multimillionaire writer and director of one the most successful film series.With $106 left in his bank account, Stallone offered his script of 'Rocky' to various producers. He wanted to sell the script and star in the lead role. The producers rejected him as the lead but offered him $50 000 for the script. They did not think he was a bankable star -too ugly, too short, and talked too funny to be a good leading actor. They wanted to cast Ryan O'Neal, who enjoyed boxing, or Burt Reynolds or Paul Newman or Steve McQueen, or Al Pacino.
$50 000 was a lot of money considering he had so little cash and a pregnant wife to look after. However old Sly stuck to his guns, and refused to take the deal without the lead role. The bids for the script kept going up, but without the offer of the leading role. Stallone says of the negotiations,
"I made a simple declaration to my agent and whoever wanted to hear, that I would sooner burn the script, that I would sooner bury the script, that I would sooner put the script out to sea and blow it up than to have anyone else play Rocky. "If the price went up to half a million, if the price went up to a million, 'I said, 'No sale. ", Finally, the producers swung over to my side and used their influence to convince United Artists to take me on. The script went to Arthur Krim, Eric Pleskow, Mike Medavoy, and all the upper echelon of the United Artists organization and finally it came down, the word from above, that it was a "go" for one million dollars. Not a penny more, not a penny less. One million dollars!"
Rocky then won the Academy Best Picture award in 1976.
Ok so how does this help you on your own personal development journey you may well be asking? It's not as far-fetched as it may seem at first. Regardless of whether you like Rocky or not, there are some valued lessons from Rocky and old Sly about being the Director of your own Movie of Life.
1. Know that you are the Director of your own Life Movie.
Imagine for one moment you can create your own world, just as Sylvester Stallone did in Rocky. This is the truth that Stallone knew and you need to embrace too: you are the DIRECTOR of your life. You ARE creating it every moment. You are the scriptwriter, director, producer and actor in the Movie of your Life. Many people however, are unconscious directors, believing that life just happens; they believe that they are bit actors in someone else's (God's? the government's? their parents'?) movie, with little say on direction, content, and genre of the movie's production.
To understand that you are the Director of your own Life Movie, you need to feel this conviction in your bones like Stallone - you have to know at a cellular level that you are in charge of the scripting, directing, production, and execution of your own Life Movie.
It's time now for you to claim your role as the Director of Your Life Movie and get on with living the coolest version of your life.
2. Pick the genre for your Life Movie.
What do YOU wish to experience? What do you enjoy? What are your favourite movies and why?
How would you describe your life now? A tragedy? A comedy? An adventure? How would you like it to be from now on?
Knowing the overall theme and genre will guide you in the creative process.
3. Feelings make the blockbuster.
Your life is like that too - it is the feelings that make for a good time or not. You choose experiences (consciously or not) that allow you to feel the whole gamut of human emotions. This is what we are here on the planet to do - to enjoy the ride of human feelings.
Sylvester Stallone was very clear on what he wanted his viewers to experience when he wrote Rocky: he wanted people to feel inspired by the little guy who triumphs despite the odds. Some of the other emotions he wanted people to experience were:
4. Write the script.
Write your Life Movie script. Pick a date in the future, maybe 5 years, or 10 years or 20 - whatever feels like fun to you, and write a text of what has happened in your Life Movie. Most important to include are the feelings you experienced throughout. Joy, challenge, exhilaration - write it all in vivid detail. Tell the story, put in plenty of detail in vibrant colours, textures, characters, tastes, smells - the more descriptive you can make the script, the easier it will be for it to translate in to reality.
Review the script once you have written it. How does it feel when you read it? Do you experience all the range of emotions you want? Does it feel exciting? Does it sound like a life worth living? If you have a resounding 'yes' as answer to each of those questions, then you are on a winner.
5. Get the music right.
6. Recruit a production team.
Check to see if you have the right crew:
7. Enjoy it.
For more Stallone and Rocky wisdom, go to http://www.sylvesterstallone.com/ .
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Nine Characteristics Of Enthusiastic PeopleEnthusiasm is passion. Enthusiasm is living your dream. Enthusiasm is a divine energy you will feel as a reward for pursuing your dreams and staying on your own path.
Someone who is earnestly looking for his mission, discovers it and lives it, will organize his entire life around this divine assignment. This person offers his talents to the world, betters his environment, adds his personal value to it, and ends up happy and satisfied.
The characteristics below help you recognize this person (or become one yourself!) :
Someone who has found his mission and takes it to heart is someone who has deciphered the secret code of the soul. And he receives the corresponding gifts: a great deal of enthusiasm, an extraordinary creativity and deep satisfaction. He accepts these gifts gracefully and gratefully, and generously offers them to other people who cross his path. He is a shining light in the life of those who are so happy to have met him.
Join the enthusiastics yourself! Become a person happy to get out of bed in the mroning, ready to go on with your mission. It’s all about finding your passion and living it out! Get out of this life of misery, do what you like, do what feels good, have faith and start finally living your real life!
by: gomembers, Inc.
July 28, 2004
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University of South Carolina School of Medicine upgrades gomembers’ meetingtrak solution
[Herndon, VA] --- gomembers, Inc., announced today that trak customer University of South Carolina School of Medicine (USCSM: http://www.med.sc.edu) has elected to upgrade to the latest gomembers’ meetingtrak/ce software solution as well as adding etrak for their meeting management and online registrations.
etrak, built using Microsoft.NET technology, compliments meetingtrak/ce by providing real-time online registration capabilities. meetingtrak is the most powerful professional continuing education registration/credit tracking management software available.
”We are pleased that USCSM has decided to upgrade their trak solution by migrating to version 6.5 with continuing education tools," stated Tom McGourty, gomembers’ Vice President of Sales and Marketing. "Upgrading to this adaptable solution and adding etrak has enhanced their gomembers’ total technology solution,” McGourty noted.
For more information on gomembers' solutions, please visit the Products section of our website. www.gomembers.com
For any questions, please do not hesitate to contact gomembers via email at: gomembers-inc@gomembers.com
gomembers, Inc.
gomembers is a leading provider of comprehensive software and technology solutions designed to meet the needs of member-based organizations and the needs of the meetings and convention industries. Over the twenty-five years that gomembers has been in business, its direct customer base has included thousands of the most prominent organizations and companies. gomembers' software and technology solutions enables its customers to automate a number of enterprise resource planning, member relationship management, transaction processing and member-to-member communications functions in a single software platform with seamless inter-processing of data across all applications.
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
University of South Carolina School of Medicine upgrades gomembers’ meetingtrak solution
[Herndon, VA] --- gomembers, Inc., announced today that trak customer University of South Carolina School of Medicine (USCSM: http://www.med.sc.edu) has elected to upgrade to the latest gomembers’ meetingtrak/ce software solution as well as adding etrak for their meeting management and online registrations.
etrak, built using Microsoft.NET technology, compliments meetingtrak/ce by providing real-time online registration capabilities. meetingtrak is the most powerful professional continuing education registration/credit tracking management software available.
”We are pleased that USCSM has decided to upgrade their trak solution by migrating to version 6.5 with continuing education tools," stated Tom McGourty, gomembers’ Vice President of Sales and Marketing. "Upgrading to this adaptable solution and adding etrak has enhanced their gomembers’ total technology solution,” McGourty noted.
For more information on gomembers' solutions, please visit the Products section of our website. www.gomembers.com
For any questions, please do not hesitate to contact gomembers via email at: gomembers-inc@gomembers.com
gomembers, Inc.
gomembers is a leading provider of comprehensive software and technology solutions designed to meet the needs of member-based organizations and the needs of the meetings and convention industries. Over the twenty-five years that gomembers has been in business, its direct customer base has included thousands of the most prominent organizations and companies. gomembers' software and technology solutions enables its customers to automate a number of enterprise resource planning, member relationship management, transaction processing and member-to-member communications functions in a single software platform with seamless inter-processing of data across all applications.
About the Author
gomembers' customers use the company's solutions to improve operating efficiencies, enhance services offered to their members and enable interaction with and between their members. gomembers' software integrates over 50 financial management, back-office, relationship management, transaction processing and member communications applications specific to member-based organizations.
Rabu, 02 April 2008
Herbal medicines, although not common for primary health care in North America, are growing in acceptance both as preventative and supplemental alternatives. Often these medicinal plant preparations are most effectively delivered as "medicinal teas". With consistently good results dating back hundreds of years these healing teas are best described as strong medicine.
Several medicinal tea preparations can be found under the BIJA name that can be enjoyed daily as immune boosting preventatives or, if caught with our guard down, effective treatments for cold and flu symptoms.
BIJA's Lemon, Ginger and Echinacea preparation works to strengthen the immune system and helps to fight colds in a number of ways. Echinacea has the ability to increase
white blood cell counts. Ginger moves congestion, brings relief to achy muscles and boosts the effectiveness of the whole preparation. Lemon helps to alkalinize the acidic environment that could encourage germs to multiply. Another BIJA tea is COLD STOP. This combination of eight traditional cold and flu remedies leaves no stone unturned in its approach, with warming and delicious herbs like Licorice, Eucalyptus, Cinnamon, Cardamom, Yarrow, Thyme, Ginger and Peppermint. Antibiotic in action this combination works to kill invading organisms, while helping the body recover by supporting the active tissue sites. BIJA Echinacea Elderberry with Cranberry and Rooibos is a combo that aims to prevent trouble before it starts. An increase in immune function can ward off invaders before they can take hold, and that makes staying healthy easy to do. Bursting with activity and flavor this tea is perfect for daily use.
For authentic herbal solutions to cold and flu, and to boost immune function, use BIJA tea. Available in natural food outlets or for more information call Flora at 1- 888-436-6697.
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For authentic herbal solutions to cold and flu, and to boost immune function, use BIJA tea. Available in natural food outlets or for more information call Flora at 1- 888-436-6697.
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Selasa, 01 April 2008
Cialis – The Latest in ED Medicine
by: John M. Davidson
Erectile Dysfunction is defined as the consistent inability to attain and maintain an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse. ED affects an estimated 189 million men worldwide. Experts believe that 80 percent to 90 percent of ED cases are related to a physical or medical condition, such as diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, and prostate cancer treatment, while 10 percent to 20 percent are due to psychological causes. In many cases, however, both psychological and physical factors contribute to the condition.
Lilly ICOS LLC, a joint venture between ICOS Corporation and Eli Lilly and Company, developed Cialis for the treatment of erectile dysfunction. ICOS Corporation, a biotechnology company headquartered in Bothell, Washington, is dedicated to bringing innovative therapeutics to patients. ICOS is working to develop treatments for serious unmet medical conditions such as benign prostatic hyperplasia, pulmonary arterial hypertension, cancer and inflammatory diseases.
When an erection goes limp, you have PDE5 to thank . Specialized penis tissue produces a substance called cyclic guanosine monophosphate (cGMP) in response to sexual stimulation. The more cGMP available, the more durable the erection. Cialis inhibits the PDE5 enzyme, preserving cGMP levels, therefore aiding erection viability and durability. Cialis (tadalafil), an oral treatment for erectile dysfunction, is a selective inhibitor of cyclic guanosine monophosphate (cGMP)-specific phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE5). Tadalafil has the empirical formula C 22 H 19 N 3 O 4 representing a molecular weight of 389.41.
We all know that Cialis isn't the first oral treatment medicine for erectile dysfunction. It came after Viagra and Levitra. However both Viagra and Levitra works for up to 5-6 hours, while Cialis gives you 36 hours to enjoy sex. All three drugs should take about 30-40 minutes to take action. No longer does an erection or sexual activity have to be rushed. If you Expect to go to a Bar and meet a girl, you probably wouldn't want to take Viagra or Levitra and get a really hard erection after 40 minutes, because you don't know how things would go, Instead you can take Cialis before you go out, and you should be on the safe side of the erection, even if you decide to spend the night.
To conclude, Viagra and Levitra would probably be better to one certain sexual encounter with your wife, while Cialis is a better choice for a whole weekend of sex, or for a night at some pick-up bars, seeking random sex partners, without the certainty of Sex. For a comprehensive overview and comparison of all 3 drugs, as well as prices at selected pharmacies, you should visit Compare-Medicine.com
Erectile Dysfunction is defined as the consistent inability to attain and maintain an erection sufficient for sexual intercourse. ED affects an estimated 189 million men worldwide. Experts believe that 80 percent to 90 percent of ED cases are related to a physical or medical condition, such as diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, and prostate cancer treatment, while 10 percent to 20 percent are due to psychological causes. In many cases, however, both psychological and physical factors contribute to the condition.
Lilly ICOS LLC, a joint venture between ICOS Corporation and Eli Lilly and Company, developed Cialis for the treatment of erectile dysfunction. ICOS Corporation, a biotechnology company headquartered in Bothell, Washington, is dedicated to bringing innovative therapeutics to patients. ICOS is working to develop treatments for serious unmet medical conditions such as benign prostatic hyperplasia, pulmonary arterial hypertension, cancer and inflammatory diseases.
When an erection goes limp, you have PDE5 to thank . Specialized penis tissue produces a substance called cyclic guanosine monophosphate (cGMP) in response to sexual stimulation. The more cGMP available, the more durable the erection. Cialis inhibits the PDE5 enzyme, preserving cGMP levels, therefore aiding erection viability and durability. Cialis (tadalafil), an oral treatment for erectile dysfunction, is a selective inhibitor of cyclic guanosine monophosphate (cGMP)-specific phosphodiesterase type 5 (PDE5). Tadalafil has the empirical formula C 22 H 19 N 3 O 4 representing a molecular weight of 389.41.
We all know that Cialis isn't the first oral treatment medicine for erectile dysfunction. It came after Viagra and Levitra. However both Viagra and Levitra works for up to 5-6 hours, while Cialis gives you 36 hours to enjoy sex. All three drugs should take about 30-40 minutes to take action. No longer does an erection or sexual activity have to be rushed. If you Expect to go to a Bar and meet a girl, you probably wouldn't want to take Viagra or Levitra and get a really hard erection after 40 minutes, because you don't know how things would go, Instead you can take Cialis before you go out, and you should be on the safe side of the erection, even if you decide to spend the night.
To conclude, Viagra and Levitra would probably be better to one certain sexual encounter with your wife, while Cialis is a better choice for a whole weekend of sex, or for a night at some pick-up bars, seeking random sex partners, without the certainty of Sex. For a comprehensive overview and comparison of all 3 drugs, as well as prices at selected pharmacies, you should visit Compare-Medicine.com
About the Author John M. Davidson is the founder of Compare-Medicine.com. In the age of 39, after he first discovered that he had Erectile Dysfunction, and began seeking for treatment, he decided to make it easier for other men like himself to find the best solution.
Sabtu, 02 Februari 2008
10 Tips for a Killer Presentation
by Neil Patel
Presentations are something that we’re all familiar with. Whether you are watching a presentation or giving a presentation, chances are you know what sucks and what doesn’t. However, in case you don’t know the suck from the not, here are ten tips to help insure you are giving a good presentation:
- Don’t abuse your visuals - Usually your visuals are posters, charts, or even a PowerPoint presentation. Whatever your visuals may be, keep them simple and don’t put too many words on them. The audience isn’t there to read your slides, they are there to listen to you present.
- Look at the audience - If you ever wondered where you should be looking when presenting, the answer is right in front of you. Don’t just single out one person, but instead try to make eye contact with numerous people throughout the room. If you don’t do this then you aren’t engaging the audience, you are just talking to yourself. This can result in an utter lack of attention from your audience.
- Show your personality - It doesn’t matter if you are presenting to a corporate crowd or to senior citizens, you need to show some character when presenting. If you don’t do this you’ll probably sound like Agent Smith from the Matrix. Nobody wants to hear him present. (If you do, you are probably an agent yourself and we will find you)
- Make them laugh -Although you want to educate your audience, you need to make them laugh as well. I learned this from Guy Kawasaki and if you ever hear any of his speeches you’ll understand why. In essence, it keeps the audience alert and they’ll learn more from you than someone who just educates.
- Talk to your audience, not at them - People hate it when they get talked at, so don’t do it. You need to interact with your audience and create a conversation. An easy way to do this is to ask them questions as well as letting them ask you questions.
- Be honest - A lot of people present to the audience what they want to hear, instead of what they need to hear. Make sure you tell the truth even if they don’t want to hear it because they will respect you for that and it will make you more human.
- Don’t over prepare - If you rehearse your presentation too much it will sound like it (in a bad way). Granted, you need to be prepared enough to know what you are going to talk about but make sure your presentation flows naturally instead of sounding memorized. Usually if you ask experienced speakers what you shouldn’t do, they’ll tell you not to rehearse your presentation too much because then it won’t sound natural.
- Show some movement - You probably know that you need to show some movement when speaking, but naturally you may forget to do so. Make sure you show some gestures or pace around a bit (not too much) on the stage when speaking. Remember, no one likes watching a stiff. People are more engaged with an animated speaker.
- Watch what you say - You usually don’t notice when you say “uhm”, “ah”, or any other useless word frequently, but the audience does. It gets quite irritating; so much that some members of the audience will probably count how many times you say these useless words.
- Differentiate yourself - If you don’t do something unique compared to all the other presenters the audience has heard, they won’t remember you. You are branding yourself when you speak, so make sure you do something unique and memorable.
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Top 10 Tips for Salary Negotiations
by Michael Chaffers
Negotiating a better salary package has put more than a few stomachs in knots over the years. Remember, we all go through it sooner or later. Try to keep these 10 basic tips in mind when it's your turn to ask for a sweeter deal.
1. Be Persuasive
It's hard to force your boss to increase your compensation, and trying to do so can potentially damage your working relationship. Think about the process as trying to convince him that it might benefit the organization to pay you more.
2. Aim High, and Be Realistic
Many researchers have found a strong correlation between people's aspirations and the results they achieve in negotiation. At the same time, you want to suggest ideas to which your boss can realistically say yes.
3. Start Off with the Right Tone
You want to let your boss know you will listen and try to understand his views. At the same time, you expect your boss to do the same for you so you can work together to address this issue. Avoid ultimatums, threats and other coercive behavior.
4. Clarify Your Interests
Your compensation should satisfy a range of needs, not just salary. Make sure you have thought about other points of value to you as well -- like profit sharing, stock options that vest immediately, a bonus, greater work responsibilities, a quicker promotion schedule, increased vacation or flexible hours.
5. Anticipate Your Boss's Interests
Just like you, your boss has needs and concerns. To persuade him to say yes, your ideas will have to address those things that are important to him.
6. Create Several Options
Joint brainstorming is the most effective way to find ideas that satisfy everyone's interests. It works best when you separate it from commitment -- first create possible solutions, and then decide among them.
7. Focus on Objective Criteria
It is far easier to persuade someone to agree with your proposal if he sees how that proposal is firmly grounded on objective criteria, such as what similar firms pay people of like experience or what others in the company make.
8. Think Through Your Alternatives
In case you cannot persuade your boss to say yes, you need to have a backup plan. Part of preparation is creating a specific action plan so you know what you'll do if you have to walk away from the table.
9. Prepare Thoughtfully to Achieve Your Goals
This is the only aspect of your negotiations you can completely control. To take advantage of all of the above advice, you have to invest a significant amount of your time and energy.
10. Review to Learn
The only way you can really improve your ability to negotiate is to explicitly learn from your experiences. After you finish negotiations, reflect on what you did that worked well and what you might want to do differently next time.
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7 Character Traits of Successful People
By Chris Widener
- They are hard working. There is no such thing as easy money. Success takes hard work and people who are willing to do it.
- They are honest. Those who are successful long-term are the honest ones. Dishonest people may get the first sale, but honest people will get all the rest!
- They persevere. How many success stories will go untold because they never happened? And all because someone quit. Successful people outlast everybody else.
- They are friendly. Have you noticed that most successful people are friendly and people oriented? This endears them to others and enables them to lead others to accomplish the task.
- They are lifelong learners. Successful people are people who stretch themselves and grow continually, learning from all areas of life, including from their mistakes.
- They over-deliver. The old statement of under-promise and over-deliver became famous because it made a lot of people successful, including the richest man in the world - Bill Gates.
- They seek solutions in the face of problems. Problems are opportunities to do the impossible, not just complain. Successful people are the ones who find solutions.
Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of Made for Success and Extraordinary Leaders, two companies helping individuals and organizations turn their potential into performance, succeed in every area of their lives and achieve their dreams. Join subscribers in over 100 countries around the world! Get Chris' FREE weekly Made for Success Ezine by sending a blank email to success-on@mail-list.com.
The Amazing Power of..."Intelligent Optimism"
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
Lately our everyday reality seems to leave little room for optimism. People around the world are suffering from very real natural and personal crises. Our TV’s and newspapers are packed with sadness and fear.
In times like these it is very important to hold tight to a powerful life success tool – optimism.
Why optimism? Because optimism activates your amygdala (pronounced ahh-mig-da-la) -- a very important part of your brain that increases your ability to create positive answers to life's challenges.
So what is Optimism?
You might fairly ask just what optimism really is. Well first, optimism is not just a Pollyanna everything is wonderful attitude. And it goes beyond the concept of "positive thinking."
Optimism is actually a refined mental style of how one chooses to respond to life. Webster’s Dictionary defines optimism as “an inclination to put the most favorable construction upon actions and events, or to anticipate the best possible outcome.”
But you might fairly ask how you can be optimistic in the face of today’s often overwhelming challenges?
So let’s face it, life can be very tough at times. But even in the midst of personal turmoil and overwhelming crisis, the same thing holds true: We choose how to interpret what is happening to and around us, and we also choose how we will respond.
Our Greatest Life-Success Power
This ability to choose our mental outlooks and actions is actually the greatest life-success power we humans have.
Virtually everything happening to you right now offers this choice. And it doesn’t even matter if that thing is “good” or “bad.” Even if something undesirable happens, you still have the power to choose how you will interpret and respond to that event.
It’s admitedly easy to feel overwhelmed at times, and fall into a habit of making non-optimistic choices. Such an “attitude meltdown” often comes hand-in-hand with chronic or overwhelming stress. But each moment you DO have a choice to either let life wear you down, or to set your mind in a more positive direction.
Mayo Clinic researcher Dr. Toshihiko Maruta reports that optimists have a dramatically higher level of physical and mental functioning than pessimists. "How you perceive what goes on around you and how you interpret it has an impact on your longevity, and also affect the quality of your entire life."
The Optimism-Financial Success Connection
Optimism is also at the very heart of financial health.
Why do I say this? Ask almost any self-made millionaire about their path to prosperity and you’ll get a similar story: Just like learning any other skill, learning to create lasting financial success is learned. And the learning process is based on trial and error.
Consider the term “trial and error.” A “trial” means you’re going to try a lot of different approaches to achieving financial success, and “error” means not all of them are going to work.
I’ve personally been there myself. On my personal path to creating financial independence I’ve tried many different approaches. Some of these trials have been successful, but many have led straight into out-and-out struggles. And have there been errors along the way? Oh yes!
Here’s the big lesson I’ve learned along the way: One of the most important tools in your “financial health tool bag” is the ability to remain optimistic. There are other important tools to be sure … like passion, drive and focus. But without optimism, you’ll never get beyond where you are today.
But optimism isn’t about denying reality. And it isn’t about being idealistic, or chasing after some totally unrealistic condition or situation
“Intelligent Optimism”
Many people seem more adept at practicing dissatisfaction than optimism. They worry about money, complain about their business, and compare themselves poorly to others. And in terms of the physical health of their brains -– they are actually building and strengthening the neural networks associated with their problems.
But most psychologists agree that the aptitude for optimism is not genetically determined. In other words, anyone can learn to be optimistic. All it requires is a good grasp of reality, along with practice.
In a very interesting cover story, the French magazine Psychologies (January 2005) suggested we focus on "intelligent optimism." According to their insight:
Intelligent optimists don’t deny problems, they adjust to them while still seeking an opportunity for progress.
Intelligent optimists don’t allow themselves to get carried away by circumstances they can’t change. They instead focus on things within their grasp, and that they can enjoy.
Intelligent optimists also know that for every problem there is (at least the beginning of) a solution, and that the search for that solution can be inspirational in itself.
Intelligent optimists are also not afraid of negative thoughts, which they realize are just internal messages they can choose to either listen to, or reject.
Just Nod “Yes”
How can you develop intelligent optimism? It all starts with a realistic attitude -- with facing the reality of your current situation, identifying what you can’t change, and going to work on what you CAN change or improve.
But here’s an interesting tool that can move you along even faster: Learn how to activate key portions of your brain by nodding your head “yes.” A recent Ohio State University study proved that nodding or shaking your head serves as "self-validation" that confirms to yourself how you feel about your own thoughts.
The researchers found that nodding your head up and down is, in effect, telling yourself that you have confidence in your own thoughts, And it's important to note that this is true whether those thoughts are positive or negative. Shaking your head does the opposite: It gives you less confidence in your own thoughts.
“One of the most surprising things we found,” explained lead researcher Dr Petty, “is that if you're thinking negative thoughts while you're nodding, this actually strengthens your disapproval. What head nodding does in this case is increase your confidence in your negative thoughts. In contrast, when the thoughts were mostly positive, then nodding increases confidence in your positive thoughts.”
Try this: As you go about your day today, be aware of how you are responding to what is happening around you. Try making a conscious choice to respond, rather than just automatically react in your customary way. And nod your head to remind yourself that you are holding a positive, "intelligent optimist" attitude.
The above insights and tools are representative of those found in the author's remarkably powerful personal transformation ecourse. Come find out for yourself why thousands of intelligent people around the world are using her proven techniques for lasting personal change
BUILD GENIUS BRAINPOWER
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
Even if you’re a genius, you’re far more intelligent than you realize!
John von Neumann, the inventor of the computer, estimated our brains hold two hundred and eighty quintillion bits of memory (that's 280, followed by 18 zeros). But most of today's neuroscientists feel his estimate is far too low.
A few short years ago scientists believed "geniuses" were born with brains somehow differed from the rest of us. But recent scientific research suggests that genius-level brainpower is *also* the result of mental training, and not just genetic superiority.
Even today's "Einsteins" are now seen by neuroscientists as "ordinary" people who have developed "extraordinary" mental powers and focus.
How Genius is Developed
We don't often think of the mind as a tool whose powers can be "developed" on such a dramatic level. But the good news is -- there are definite, proven-effective ways to develop your brain's capacity for genius.
Modern neuroscientists claim that genius-level mental functioning is all about connections.
“Which connections?” you ask. The maze of interconnections among your neurons. The evidence is: The more you stimulate and challenge your brain -- the more connections it is forced to make among neurons (brain cells).
And the more interconnections you have between your brain's neurons, the closer you move toward genius-level creativity and thinking!
Einstein’s Secret
As a child, Albert Einstein was seriously dyslexic and had great difficulty with both speech and reading. He was expelled from high school and flunked his first college entrance exam, but finally managed to complete his bachelor's degree.
He then took lowly job in the Swiss patent office. But then when he was only 26, he published his "Special Theory of Relativity." Sixteen later he won a Nobel Prize.
Dr. Thomas Harvey, a pathologist on duty at Princeton Hospital when Einstein died in 1955, removed Einstein's brain. Harvey studied it under a microscope over a 40 year period, but never found a difference from "normal" brains.
But then in the early 1980s, Marian Diamond, a neuro-anatomist at the University of California at Berkeley, made some interesting discoveries. Her findings about brains in general (and Einstein's brain in particular) revolutionized our ideas about what genius really is!
Diamond placed a group of rats in a very stimulating environment with ladders, swings, treadmills, and "rat toys." She then confined a “control” group of rats to bare cages.
The rats in the stimulating environment lived to advanced ages (the equivalent of 90 for mankind). But even more remarkable, Diamond found their brains had grown an amazing number of new connections between neurons.
Diamond had discovered the first “hard evidence” that higher intelligence could be created through mentally-stimulating exercise. She then examined sections of Einstein's brain, and discovered it also had an unusually high number of such neural "interconnections."
Mental Sharpness and Aging
Our brain does not replace neurons (brain cells) like we replace dead skin, bone or muscle cells. But there's something else at work in the minds of those who don't lose their mental capacities in advanced age!
Researchers studied a group of 800 older nuns, and came up with clear proof of the benefits of mental stimulation. Those nuns who were constantly learning new things, or playing mind stimulating games and crossword puzzles, were less likely to show symptoms of Alzheimer's -- compared to the less mentally active nuns.
Our brains can continue to grow in complexity right up to a very advanced age! Each challenge you present to your brain causes immediate physical changes - no matter what your age.
A Plan of Action
Your brain's inter-neural connections can potentially increase in number and complexity throughout life. The more you learn, the more of these pathways are created. And the more you stimulate your brain, the sharper your memory and mental responses.
The most basic way to build brainpower is to challenge and exercise your brain. Create healthy new neural networks by learning a new skill or language, or through brainwave training. Even so-called “physical” activities such as yoga, Tai Chi, skating or dancing can build brainpower!
Put your brainpower to work to create the lifestyle you desire. Dr Ammon-Wexler’s Quantum Brain Gym is the web's first complete interactive brain gym -- complete with live brainwave training. Click here=> http://www.quantumbraingym.com
Even if you’re a genius, you’re far more intelligent than you realize!
John von Neumann, the inventor of the computer, estimated our brains hold two hundred and eighty quintillion bits of memory (that's 280, followed by 18 zeros). But most of today's neuroscientists feel his estimate is far too low.
A few short years ago scientists believed "geniuses" were born with brains somehow differed from the rest of us. But recent scientific research suggests that genius-level brainpower is *also* the result of mental training, and not just genetic superiority.
Even today's "Einsteins" are now seen by neuroscientists as "ordinary" people who have developed "extraordinary" mental powers and focus.
How Genius is Developed
We don't often think of the mind as a tool whose powers can be "developed" on such a dramatic level. But the good news is -- there are definite, proven-effective ways to develop your brain's capacity for genius.
Modern neuroscientists claim that genius-level mental functioning is all about connections.
“Which connections?” you ask. The maze of interconnections among your neurons. The evidence is: The more you stimulate and challenge your brain -- the more connections it is forced to make among neurons (brain cells).
And the more interconnections you have between your brain's neurons, the closer you move toward genius-level creativity and thinking!
Einstein’s Secret
As a child, Albert Einstein was seriously dyslexic and had great difficulty with both speech and reading. He was expelled from high school and flunked his first college entrance exam, but finally managed to complete his bachelor's degree.
He then took lowly job in the Swiss patent office. But then when he was only 26, he published his "Special Theory of Relativity." Sixteen later he won a Nobel Prize.
Dr. Thomas Harvey, a pathologist on duty at Princeton Hospital when Einstein died in 1955, removed Einstein's brain. Harvey studied it under a microscope over a 40 year period, but never found a difference from "normal" brains.
But then in the early 1980s, Marian Diamond, a neuro-anatomist at the University of California at Berkeley, made some interesting discoveries. Her findings about brains in general (and Einstein's brain in particular) revolutionized our ideas about what genius really is!
Diamond placed a group of rats in a very stimulating environment with ladders, swings, treadmills, and "rat toys." She then confined a “control” group of rats to bare cages.
The rats in the stimulating environment lived to advanced ages (the equivalent of 90 for mankind). But even more remarkable, Diamond found their brains had grown an amazing number of new connections between neurons.
Diamond had discovered the first “hard evidence” that higher intelligence could be created through mentally-stimulating exercise. She then examined sections of Einstein's brain, and discovered it also had an unusually high number of such neural "interconnections."
Mental Sharpness and Aging
Our brain does not replace neurons (brain cells) like we replace dead skin, bone or muscle cells. But there's something else at work in the minds of those who don't lose their mental capacities in advanced age!
Researchers studied a group of 800 older nuns, and came up with clear proof of the benefits of mental stimulation. Those nuns who were constantly learning new things, or playing mind stimulating games and crossword puzzles, were less likely to show symptoms of Alzheimer's -- compared to the less mentally active nuns.
Our brains can continue to grow in complexity right up to a very advanced age! Each challenge you present to your brain causes immediate physical changes - no matter what your age.
A Plan of Action
Your brain's inter-neural connections can potentially increase in number and complexity throughout life. The more you learn, the more of these pathways are created. And the more you stimulate your brain, the sharper your memory and mental responses.
The most basic way to build brainpower is to challenge and exercise your brain. Create healthy new neural networks by learning a new skill or language, or through brainwave training. Even so-called “physical” activities such as yoga, Tai Chi, skating or dancing can build brainpower!
Put your brainpower to work to create the lifestyle you desire. Dr Ammon-Wexler’s Quantum Brain Gym is the web's first complete interactive brain gym -- complete with live brainwave training. Click here=> http://www.quantumbraingym.com
The Game of Tennis as a “Future Memory”
Modern science has discovered the exact mental mechanisms we use to create success (or failure) in all aspects of our lives.
The game of tennis is a great example! You’re out on the court with a friend. She’s been burning up the court with blistering serves. But you’ve hung in there, and won the set by returning some great shots.
But now it’s your turn to serve. You try to brush away the memory of the last time you played -- when your serve suddenly went “bad” on you. For some unknown reason, you just couldn’t keep the ball above the net.
You bounce the ball a couple of times, then wind up and toss it up for a serve.
But even before the strings touch the ball, you already KNOW what’s going to happen.
You set your teeth as the ball slams into the net just like it did last week. You shake your head. “Not again.” You moan. “What has gone wrong?”
And of course, your second serve is almost identical to the first. This is what tennis players, golfers, and other athletes call being “off their game.”
Being “off your game” in any aspect of life is caused by what I call a “future memory.” The term “future memories” may seem odd, but it’s a natural mental process. A “future memory” is basically a picture of yourself in the future. And the truth is, you’re creating such memories virtually every day.
There’s an old saying: “In life -- we get what we focus on.” And now neuroscientists have discovered the truth behind that axiom.
Here’s what’s happening: Your subconscious mind will automatically work to manifest your mental “picture” of what seems appropriate in your life.
If you feel you are “off your game,” you reinforce a mental expectation you will continue to be off your game! Now your subconscious mind does not “think” in the same sense your conscious, rational mind does. The subconscious mind actually takes “directions” from your conscious mind, and orders your body to carry out those directions.
Your feeling of being “off your game” is seen as a direction from your conscious mind.
Your subconscious mind instantly “gets the picture” from stored memories that support that “direction.” In effect, it creates a “future memory” of how you are about to respond – then sends actual neural messages to your brain’s “motor centers” to reproduce a tennis serve that will slam into the net.
It’s important to appreciate the fact that “future memories” are a physical brain reality. This is not just a psychological construct!
Years of research by behavioral scientists has clearly proven that mental rehearsal *alone* creates actual improvements in both sports and intellectual activities.
How can this be so?
Recent scientific PET (positron-emission tomography) scans have provided fascinating scientific proof of the power of mental rehearsal.
Pet scan images of the brain activity associated with just *thinking* about moving an arm – truly activate areas of the brain associated with *actual* arm movements.
What does this mean? In practical terms, you can use mental imagery to “pre-program” your mind by “practicing” the positive effects you want in your life.
The other thing you’ll want to remember is this: Your subconscious mind is the product of your physical brain! It’s not some concept that floats around somewhere out in space!
And what neuroscientists have discovered about the physical brain is this: It is not the “rigid structure” it was once thought to be. We now know that the brain is “plastic.” It constantly changes to fit your current (and currently expected) environment.
And the evidence is that like muscles, the brain too follows the rule of “use it or lose it.”
If you consciously focus on “future memories” of success, they will be seen by your subconscious mind as actual instructions. Your mind responds by building actual neural networks to hold those instructions. And the more often you send those “future memory” instructions – the stronger those positive neural networks will grow.
So truly, we actually ARE what we think. Use positive future memories to create what you want in your life – and starve the old neural networks holding any memories of limitations.
Your daily “reality” is a direct reflection of these future memories. Whatever you consciously or unconsciously focus on, whether positive or negative, will gain strength.
Any life improvement must begin with an improvement in your ability to use “future memories.” Those who are successful are those who continually focus on the life they want to lead. Those who are unsuccessful continually focus on what they do *not* want. And what you focus on gains power from stronger, more stable physical neural networks
Put modern neuroscience to work to create the life you want! Apply the science of future memories in your life. Get your copy of “Visualize Success: The Science of Future Memories” by Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler. Click here: www.quantum-self.com/visualize.htm
3 STEPS AWAY FROM YOUR *BIG* DREAM
By Dr. Jill Ammon-Wexler
Why do the other 97 percent settle for so much less?
It is because they do not allow themselves to even imagine what could be possible in their lives – let alone pursue it. And if you can't imagine it, you'll never create it.
Here's where it all starts...
Every super successful achiever I have ever known has said the same thing about where true success and achievement begin: It's in the dreaming of (and commitment to) big, expansive, seemingly impossible dreams.
There is simply no faster way to dissolve your so-called personal limitations than to have a really big dream. To focus on the wonderful life you are creating – and the super achiever you are becoming.
When you begin to create truly big dreams, your self-esteem and self-confidence begin to soar almost magically. You immediately feel more confident about your ability to handle whatever life deals you.
An amazing TRUE story..
One of my former coaching clients is today one of the highest paid MLM pros in the entire United States. But he did not start at the top.
After one especially intense mentoring session, Rob (not his true name) set a goal of doubling his income in the coming year – truly a major goal in this challenging business.
He had no idea how he would accomplish his impossible dream, but he set a goal of achieving it.
Rob began by absolutely committing to no longer accept any excuses from himself. He then passionately threw himself into analyzing his downline business builders – his current bread and butter.
He looked carefully at each business builder, and discovered that about 20 percent of his downline executives were creating over 80% of his income. (It's odd, but this 20/80 percent rule seems to pop up again and again in almost all types of business and life situations.)
Rob's further analysis revealed that he was actually spending more time and energy on his low-producers than he was on his important high-producers. In short, he was over investing in the losers – and under investing in his winners. This discovery shocked him deeply.
We talked it over, and Rob decided to share his findings with all of his downline executives. He scheduled a tele-conference, and fully explained his thoughts to his entire downline business-builder team.
He then explained that from that day forward, he was redirecting his energy. Although they would all continue to receive his monthly newsletter -- only his top producers would receive his personal support and coaching.
In effect, Rob drew a line in the sand. Then he encouraged all of his serious business builders to follow his lead, and to only work with their highest producers.
He then redirected his energy to create a very tight and motivated top executive team. They worked together to create a profile of the type of business builders they wanted to attract. Then they jointly invested their energy and resources into a very focused advertising and marketing campaign.
They began to dream – and put focused action behind their dream. Rob did not double his money that year. He went beyond that and increased it 368 percent. And Rob's 20 percent prime business builders did equally well. Plus four of his previously weaker producers even caught the fever, and began to excel.
The 3 Steps to achieving a BIG dream...There are only three secrets to achieving your big dreams: Clarity, commitment, and focus. Here is how it goes:
Step 1
Step 2
It's said less than 3 percent of the people in the world come close to achieving their true potential. I personally suspect even that estimate is high.
Why do the other 97 percent settle for so much less?
It is because they do not allow themselves to even imagine what could be possible in their lives – let alone pursue it. And if you can't imagine it, you'll never create it.
Here's where it all starts...
Every super successful achiever I have ever known has said the same thing about where true success and achievement begin: It's in the dreaming of (and commitment to) big, expansive, seemingly impossible dreams.
There is simply no faster way to dissolve your so-called personal limitations than to have a really big dream. To focus on the wonderful life you are creating – and the super achiever you are becoming.
When you begin to create truly big dreams, your self-esteem and self-confidence begin to soar almost magically. You immediately feel more confident about your ability to handle whatever life deals you.
An amazing TRUE story..
One of my former coaching clients is today one of the highest paid MLM pros in the entire United States. But he did not start at the top.
After one especially intense mentoring session, Rob (not his true name) set a goal of doubling his income in the coming year – truly a major goal in this challenging business.
He had no idea how he would accomplish his impossible dream, but he set a goal of achieving it.
Rob began by absolutely committing to no longer accept any excuses from himself. He then passionately threw himself into analyzing his downline business builders – his current bread and butter.
He looked carefully at each business builder, and discovered that about 20 percent of his downline executives were creating over 80% of his income. (It's odd, but this 20/80 percent rule seems to pop up again and again in almost all types of business and life situations.)
Rob's further analysis revealed that he was actually spending more time and energy on his low-producers than he was on his important high-producers. In short, he was over investing in the losers – and under investing in his winners. This discovery shocked him deeply.
We talked it over, and Rob decided to share his findings with all of his downline executives. He scheduled a tele-conference, and fully explained his thoughts to his entire downline business-builder team.
He then explained that from that day forward, he was redirecting his energy. Although they would all continue to receive his monthly newsletter -- only his top producers would receive his personal support and coaching.
In effect, Rob drew a line in the sand. Then he encouraged all of his serious business builders to follow his lead, and to only work with their highest producers.
He then redirected his energy to create a very tight and motivated top executive team. They worked together to create a profile of the type of business builders they wanted to attract. Then they jointly invested their energy and resources into a very focused advertising and marketing campaign.
They began to dream – and put focused action behind their dream. Rob did not double his money that year. He went beyond that and increased it 368 percent. And Rob's 20 percent prime business builders did equally well. Plus four of his previously weaker producers even caught the fever, and began to excel.
The 3 Steps to achieving a BIG dream...There are only three secrets to achieving your big dreams: Clarity, commitment, and focus. Here is how it goes:
Step 1
The whole process starts with achieving clarity. You must have clarity about who you are, and exactly what it is you want to achieve. Like Rob, you may also benefit from doing a close examination of your priorities. Time is really what we have in life. Be sure you are investing it wisely, and in ways that clearly support achieving your goal.
Step 2
Commitment is the fuel that keeps your fire burning. The stronger your commitment to achieve your goal -- the more fire and desire and belief you will manifest. And the more you begin to accomplish the things that are truly important to you, the stronger your self-confidence will become. The process feeds itself.
- Energy builds energy
- Belief builds belief
- Commitment builds commitment
Step 3
Focus is not a casual part of this process. It is absolutely essential that you hold your mental focus on exactly what you want to be, have, and do. Apply Rob's 20/80 percent rule to everything you do, and especially to how you invest your basic life currency –- your time.
To summarize...Here's the strategy I recommend when I help my coaching clients put their own feet to the fire:
Allow yourself to dream a really BIG dream Balance how you use your time and resources Focus on the things that can make a real difference in your life or business
Take consistent, focused, committed action As YOU allow yourself to dream really BIG dreams, you will find yourself moving closer and closer to achieving your true potential. This is tremendously exciting and gratifying.
Along the way you may have to trim-away some activities or habits that aren't really a good investment of your time and energy – but you will come up stronger and more successful for it.
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Senin, 21 Januari 2008
10 Tips - Stressed? Save Your Sanity This Spring
Adapted from Keeping Life Simple, by Karen Levine (Storey Books, 2004). The price we pay for the complexity of life is too high.--Jean Baudrillard
Most of us could use some help managing our busy, often-hectic lives. If your stress levels are rising and your to-do lists are getting longer and longer, these sweet and simple tips can help you to take a deep breath of relief. Serenity will blossom in you when you feel more relaxed, one of the hallmarks of real inner beauty.
SIMPLE SOLUTION: This is such great advice for making your life a saner and more beautiful place to be!
Most of us could use some help managing our busy, often-hectic lives. If your stress levels are rising and your to-do lists are getting longer and longer, these sweet and simple tips can help you to take a deep breath of relief. Serenity will blossom in you when you feel more relaxed, one of the hallmarks of real inner beauty.
SIMPLE SOLUTION: This is such great advice for making your life a saner and more beautiful place to be!
- Even if you don't meditate, you can practice one of meditation's most valuable lessons: do only what you are doing, be only where you are.
- Keep downtime sacred and don't feel guilty about it.
- Find some quiet time to think . . . about where you are in life, about your goals, about your disappointments, and so on. Insight can be very curative and energizing, but it requires thought.
- Be sure to avoid exercising too close to bedtime. It can be too stimulating and interfere with your sleep.
- Warm milk is a natural tranquilizer and calcium helps you relax. Try a glass at night before you go to bed.
- Take a Sunday afternoon nap.
- Drop out of one committee or evening meeting and dedicate that time to family activities.
- Take five minutes to relax your back, neck, and facial muscles.
- Stop and think about what you enjoy that's readily accessible.
- Remember: you may have more control over your time than you think.
10 Foolproof Tips for Better Sleep
Written by C. Simmons
- Don't worry about not getting enough sleep. Try not to worry about how much you sleep. Such worrying can start a cycle of negative thoughts that contribute to a condition, known as "learned insomnia". Learned insomnia occurs when you worry so much about whether or not you will be able to get adequate sleep, that the bedtime rituals and behavior actually trigger insomnia.
- Don't force yourself to sleep. The very attempt of trying to do so actually awakes you, making it more difficult to sleep.
- Go to bed only when you are feeling really tired and sleepy.
- Don't look at the alarm clock at night. Looking at the clock promotes increased anxiety and obsession about time.
- Body-heating procedures. Some studies suggest that soaking in hot water before going to bed can ease the transition into a deeper sleep.
- Avoid oversleep. Don't oversleep to make up for a poor night's sleep. Doing so for even a couple of days can reset your body clock and make it harder for you to sleep at night.
- Sex. Sex is a well-known nighttime stress reliever. Healthy sex life enhances your relationship, relaxes your body, releases 'happy' chemicals, and even promotes wellness. And it welcomes sleep.
- Avoid alcohol as a sleeping aid. Avoid the use of alcohol in the late evening. The most common myth found among people is that they believe alcohol helps in the sleep. But the fact is alcohol may initially act as sedative, but it produces a number of sleep-impairing effects in the long run.
- Associate your bed and bedroom with sleep and sex only. Don't watch TV, eat, or read in bed. Although these things help some people sleep, they can also give your brain the idea that bed isn't just for sleeping - and this can keep you awake.
- Naps. If you suffer from insomnia, try not taking a nap. If the goal is to sleep more during the night, napping may steal hours desired later on. If you're a regular napper, and experiencing difficulty falling or staying asleep at night, give up the nap and see what happens.
10 Tips For Dealing With Stress
By Donald Saunders
Feelings of stress are part and parcel of everyday life and in many situations stress can actually be good for us. In emergencies for example stress is nothing more than the body's instinctive reaction to defend itself. It is stress therefore that would cause us to jump out of the way if we saw a car hurtling towards us at high speed.
Stress however is not always a good thing and, if we find ourselves under stress for any length of time, it can start to result in physical symptoms such as headaches, back pain, shortness of breath, an upset stomach and insomnia, to name just a few. So, how can you manage stress in this sort of situation?
Here are 10 tips to help you to cope with life's challenges.
- Stop worrying about things over which you have no control. There are a host of things that we worry about on a daily basis but it's very important to distinguish between those things which we can control and those things which we can't control. For example, it's fine to worry about the fact that we're getting a little bit overweight because all we have to do is to cut down on our eating or take a little bit more exercise. However, there's little point in worrying about whether or not the weather at the weekend is going to be fine for our camping trip since we have no control over the weather.
- Resolve your differences with others. A great deal of the stress in our lives comes from our interaction with other people. So, if you find yourself involved in the conflict, sit down with the person involved and try to resolve your differences.
- Set yourself realistic goals. It's amazing just how much stress you can generate when you try to do too much too quickly. Plan out your time carefully, both at home and at work, and set yourself challenging but attainable targets.
- Be prepared for stressful situations. If you know that you have an event coming up which is likely to be stressful, then sit down and think about ways in which you can either eliminate or reduce any possible stress before the event arises.
- Adopt a positive attitude towards change. It's a simple fact that most of us don't like change and tend to view it as something of a threat. In reality of course most of the changes that occur in our lives are for the good and you can eliminate or reduce stress considerably if you adopt a positive attitude towards change and focus your attention on the benefits rather than the drawbacks to changes in your life.
- Add variety into your life. Life can become very stressful if it simply alternates between home and work and it's important to add variety wherever possible. Whether you enjoy sports, have a favorite hobby or like social events, there are always at least two or three things that you can find to do on a regular basis which take you away from your home and work environments and allow you to relax, unwind and, if you want to, to meet other people.
- Have an exercise routine. As many of the symptoms of stress are physical such as headaches, back pain, insomnia and weight gain, keeping yourself reasonably fit and healthy through some sort of regular exercise routine will both help to reduce stress in itself and also make your body better able to cope with it when it does arise.
- Ensure that you eat and sleep properly. Rather like exercise, it's also important to keep yourself in shape by ensuring that you keep to well-balanced diet and that you get enough sleep.
- Take up meditation. The power of meditation has been well understood for thousands of years and it is an excellent way to deal with the stresses and strains of life. Try to set aside a little bit of time each day when you can sit quietly by yourself, put time on hold briefly, and clear your mind before moving on with the day's chores.
- Don't be afraid to talk to your family, trusty friends or a counselor. It may be a cliché to say that a problem shared is a problem halved, but there is wisdom in this old saying. If things start to pile up on you then sit down and share your worries with somebody else. Not only will this help to ease your problem in itself, but they may well be able to ease your mind further with good advice and by perhaps helping you to put things into perspective or to see things from a different angle.
The vast majority on the negative stress that we will encounter in our daily lives is either avoidable or can certainly be reduced considerably. The secret lies in recognizing the dangers of stress and taking action before it starts to affect you.
10 Tips For Fighting Depression
I’ve done a bit of research into fighting depression recently and I’ve put together ten brief tips for fighting depression, leaving medication out of the list (excepting vitamins), as it doesn’t work for everyone. Most of these tips are probably common sense but it’s sometimes hard to think rationally when you’re depressed, and thus easy to forget.
- Get sufficient sleep.
I’ve always burned the candle at both ends. It’s a flaw of being a type-A, driven, workaholic personality. Lack of sleep multiplies the effects of depression. If you can’t get a full 6-8 hours each night, try 15-30 minute catnaps through out the day. I’ve tried implementing Steve Pavlina’s attempt at polyphasic rhythm-based sleep, but I can’t quite pull it off yet. I have however been very successful in using Pzizz’s two free 15-minute energizer audio MP3 recordings for power naps several times a day. It’s unbelievable how much these help. I’ve also successfully been using binaural beats to positively affect alpha, beta, theta, etc., brainwaves. (More on that in the future.) - Reduce stress.
Stress can be invisible and subconscious, and it can come from guilt about a variety of things, personal and professional. For example, as I write this article, I’m suffering from guilt for not working on client projects, which I’ve been unable to do for most of the day. That means I have to make up for this lack tomorrow, which in turn induces anxiety. It’s tough, stressful cycle. If you don’t keep stress under control, it can induce productivity-grinding panic and anxiety attacks. Naps, a walk around the neighbourhood, and exercise can help alleviate the effects immensely. Remember: you cannot learn effectively with stress weighing you down. Sometimes, practicing detachment from your worries will solve your stress. - Get sufficient exercise.
It’s not just a matter of getting blood flowing, though that’s part of it. But getting outside and getting sunlight and fresh air is important because it rejuvenates you. If you work at home like I do, this is especially important. I find that despite being a hermit thinker type, physical activity makes me feel great during times of depression. Blood flow and adrenaline seem to stave off the worst effects. Though it’s sometimes hard to remember that exercise or keeping busy helps. - Meditate.
Meditation can be an effective means to reducing stress and thus depression. It can also help you to become aware of what is causing your guilt, your stress, and often help you achieve some detachment from those “problems” you cannot do anything about. In short, it helps you achieve perspective, to see where to focus your attention. I’ve been meditating on and off for about 20 years. (I’ve done over 10,000 hours of meditation, part of the requirement of becoming a Buddhist monk, though not all under a “master”, which disqualifies me.) - Add some colour to your wardrobe.
Tough for me, an ex-goth who still wears mostly all-black, but all dark clothes all the time increases the effects of depression. Colour stimulates positive feelings. I find blood red or a hunter green shirt helps me. Some people prefer yellow, orange or peach, or prints or paisleys. You can also add colour to your life through art therapy. - Eat properly.
You know eating properly applies all the time but it’s even more crucial for those suffering from depression. I find grains, nuts, and fruit help me, and staying away from fried foods and refined carbs. I have a friend, a gifted classical guitarist, who ends up in the hospital every three or four years because of the massive amount of fast food he eats nearly every single day, and without vegetables at that. (He’s had around three meltdowns in the decade or so I’ve known him, and hasn’t worked in that time.) Even a fresh submarine/ hoagy/ rocket with lots of free toppings (i.e., veggies) is better than fries, gravy, burgers and pizzas several times a week like he has. (I’m not knocking them, as I eat them, but not every day.) Seek out healthy snacks or make your own, eat nutritious foods and add colourful vegetables and leafy items. - Take your vitamins.
Learn your E, B, Cs. And Zinc, Folic acid, iron supplements, etc. Poor diet robs us of many absolutely essential nutrients. If you are not going to change your diet, whatever your reason, at least replenish those nutrients. - Drink water.
The proper amount of fluids helps keep your skin from getting dry in the winter time - the “season” in seasonal depression. It also helps clear out some of the toxins in your body. And by the way, it’s NOT 8 glasses per day for everyone. The proper amount is based on your body weight, age, activity level, and other factors. - Add extra lighting.
Research shows that adding some warm, bright lights helps fight the effects of depression. You don’t have to spend $150+ on special lamps; just increase the wattage in some of your light bulbs. Also, fluorescent lights are less bright than they appear. Try to replace them if possible. - Smile.
It’s not a guaranteed nor permanent cure, but it does help sometimes, if you can maintain a smile for a few minutes. I watch The Comedy Network (Canada) sometimes, as laughing helps - at least temporarily, like chicken soup sort of helps a cold. Remembering to do so is key, so you may need to tape some visual reminders to your mirrors or computer, etc.
Disclaimer: I am by no means a doctor and don’t pretend to be. There’s more than one way to fight depression. If you have insidious, persistent depression, consider seeing a doctor, pyschiatrist or a therapist. (For some people, drugs may be the only answer.) Thus, the information provided here is for informational purposes only and should not be considered as medical advice - only the findings of http://www.countwordula.com
20 Practical Tips for Quieting the Mind
by: Todd Goldfarb
Meditation is the art of focusing 100% of your attention in one area. The practice comes with a myriad of well-publicized health benefits including increased concentration, decreased anxiety, and a general feeling of happiness.
Although a great number of people try meditation at some point in their lives, a small percentage actually stick with it for the long-term. This is unfortunate, and a possible reason is that many beginners do not begin with a mindset needed to make the practice sustainable.
The purpose of this article is to provide 20 practical recommendations to help beginners get past the initial hurdles and integrate meditation over the long term:
- Make it a formal practice. You will only get to the next level in meditation by setting aside specific time (preferably two times a day) to be still.
- Start with the breath. Breathing deep slows the heart rate, relaxes the muscles, focuses the mind and is an ideal way to begin practice.
- Stretch first. Stretching loosens the muscles and tendons allowing you to sit (or lie) more comfortably. Additionally, stretching starts the process of “going inward” and brings added attention to the body.
- Meditate with Purpose. Beginners must understand that meditation is an ACTIVE process. The art of focusing your attention to a single point is hard work, and you have to be purposefully engaged!
- Notice frustration creep up on you. This is very common for beginners as we think “hey, what am I doing here” or “why can’t I just quiet my damn mind already”. When this happens, really focus in on your breath and let the frustrated feelings go.
- Experiment. Although many of us think of effective meditation as a Yogi sitting cross-legged beneath a Bonzi tree, beginners should be more experimental and try different types of meditation. Try sitting, lying, eyes open, eyes closed, etc.
- Feel your body parts. A great practice for beginning meditators is to take notice of the body when a meditative state starts to take hold. Once the mind quiets, put all your attention to the feet and then slowly move your way up the body (include your internal organs). This is very healthy and an indicator that you are on the right path.
- Pick a specific room in your home to meditate. Make sure it is not the same room where you do work, exercise, or sleep. Place candles and other spiritual paraphernalia in the room to help you feel at ease.
- Read a book (or two) on meditation. Preferably an instructional guide AND one that describes the benefits of deep meditative states. This will get you motivated. John Kabat-Zinn’s Wherever You Go, There You Are is terrific for beginners.
- Commit for the long haul. Meditation is a life-long practice, and you will benefit most by NOT examining the results of your daily practice. Just do the best you can every day, and then let it go!
- Listen to instructional tapes and CDs.
- Generate moments of awareness during the day. Finding your breath and “being present” while not in formal practice is a wonderful way to evolve your meditation habits.
- Make sure you will not be disturbed. One of the biggest mistakes beginners make is not insuring peaceful practice conditions. If you have it in the back of your mind that the phone might ring, your kids might wake, or your coffee pot might whistle than you will not be able to attain a state of deep relaxation.
- Notice small adjustments. For beginning meditators, the slightest physical movements can transform a meditative practice from one of frustration to one of renewal. These adjustments may be barely noticeable to an observer, but they can mean everything for your practice.
- Use a candle. Meditating with eyes closed can be challenging for a beginner. Lighting a candle and using it as your point of focus allows you to strengthen your attention with a visual cue. This can be very powerful.
- Do NOT Stress. This may be the most important tip for beginners, and the hardest to implement. No matter what happens during your meditation practice, do not stress about it. This includes being nervous before meditating and angry afterwards. Meditation is what it is, and just do the best you can at the time.
- Do it together. Meditating with a partner or loved one can have many wonderful benefits, and can improve your practice. However, it is necessary to make sure that you set agreed-upon ground rules before you begin!
- Meditate early in the morning. Without a doubt, early morning is an idealtime to practice: it is quieter, your mind is not filled with the usual clutter, and there is less chance you will be disturbed. Make it a habit to get up half an hour earlier to meditate.
- Be Grateful at the end. Once your practice is through, spend 2-3 minutes feeling appreciative of the opportunity to practice and your mind’s ability to focus.
- Notice when your interest in meditation begins to wane. Meditation ishard work, and you will inevitably come to a point where it seemingly does not fit into the picture anymore. THIS is when you need your practice the most and I recommend you go back to the book(s) or the CD’s you listened to and become re-invigorated with the practice. Chances are that losing the ability to focus on meditation is parallel with your inability to focus in other areas of your life!
Meditation is an absolutely wonderful practice, but can be very difficult in the beginning. Use the tips described in this article to get your practice to the next level!
10 tips to reduce depression
Depression can be crippling, devastating. It can cause a person to withdraw from everyone he loves and stop doing activities that he once enjoyed. It can cause a deep despair and social isolation that is overwhelming. Victims of depression encounter memory problems, sleep disruption or a need to sleep excessively, a sense of hopelessness and an inability to join the rest of the world. Depression afflicts an estimated 19 million Americans, and they cant just snap out of it.
Although there are ways to ease some symptoms of depression, sometimes medication therapy is needed for a person to fully enjoy a life without depression. However, there are some free tips that you can try if you have the blues.
1. Speak with Someone
Marriage counselors, church patriarchs, school counselors, and life coaches can be very helpful. If you do not feel comfortable speaking with a counselor, talk to a close friend or write in a journal.
2. Start an Exercise Program
A brisk walk or a good workout can do wonders for your mood. As you exercise and raise your heart rate, your body releases endorphins which improve your mood. Youve heard of the runners high? Well, that is why.
3. Eat Fresh
Eat as much fresh fruits, vegetables, meats and dairy as possible. The more you rid processed foods from your diet, the better you will feel. Fresh vegetables are good for you and boost your body with vitamins. The healthier you are, the better you tend to feel emotionally.
4. Avoid Sugar
Sugar can cause serious problems, especially if your depression is combined with anxiety. Unlike essential sugars (glyconutrients), regular table sugar can increase your anxiety, give you a let down when you come down off of a sugar high and it can hinder your immune system, making you more susceptible to illness. Frequent illnesses can contribute to depression.
5. Avoid caffeine
Caffeine brings you up - then drops you like a rock. It can increase your anxiety and distress and contribute to your depression as well. Drink more water, sodas and even fruit drinks have sugar and preservatives that can drag you down and make you feel worse.
6. Avoid Nicotine
Nicotine is a stimulant. It acts in the body much like caffeine. It can make you feel better temporarily, but in the end it will only add to depression in several ways. The stimulant in nicotine can increase your anxiety. Smoking also tends to make a person more prone to upper respiratory illnesses and illness can increase you depression.
7. Meditation Helps
Meditation can do wonders for alieving feelings of depression. There are various forms of meditation from conscious breathing to guided meditation to creative imagery. Find a form that works for you and practice. The focus and peace does wonders for a troubled spirit.
8. Sleep
Sleep deprivation can cause depression and anxiety. Too much sleep can also contribute to depression and anxiety. The average adult needs between six and nine hours of sleep a night. Each individual has different needs, but this is a good guideline.
9. Lighten Up
Sitting or working in the dark will add to your depression. Natural light is better than artificial light too. So open the windows and shutters and replace small lights and light bulbs with bigger and brighter ones.
10. Adopt a Pet
Companion animals provide great help to anyone suffering from depression. Studies have shown that by just stroking an animal can lower your blood pressure and calm you. So go visit your local humane society or pet store. Don't have space for a goat or a horse? Maybe a dog, cat, ferret, gerbil, hamster, goldfish, or even a hermit crab?
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10 tips for people starting out in meditation
By Catherine Powell
- Find a good teacher if you canDo try to get along to a meditation class taught by an experienced practitioner; it can really help to learn in the company of others and also to ask questions and get direct answers from someone who knows the territory.
- Best not to meditate on too full a stomach!Before breakfast is good. If you’ve just eaten, your body is using its energy to digest your food: you are more likely to get sleepy in meditation after a heavy meal. Probably best not to meditate starving hungry either as you may find your practice dominated by food fantasies! Find the middle way!
- Be sensible about postureEastern people may have grown up with sitting cross-legged on the floor, but westerners, (unless they’ve done a lot of yoga or are naturally particularly flexible), generally can’t get into a lotus position at all let alone sit comfortably that way for 20 minutes. You don’t need to sit in full lotus to meditate! Kneeling on cushions or sitting on a chair is fine. Be as comfortable and upright as you can.
- Make some clear timeChoose a time to meditate when you really do have a bit of undisturbed time and can relax, even if it’s just for five minutes. Turn off your mobile phone! Close the door. Do what you can to make it possible to allow yourself to let go of being available to outside demands for a while and take an undisturbed space for yourself. If you have young children, this can take a bit of planning, but children can also get used to a parent sitting quietly for a while each day, it can be a beneficial experience for them too!
- Work with your own body clockIf you’re an early bird and get sleepy in the evenings, do a little meditation in the mornings; if your head is full of planning for the day in the mornings, experiment with giving yourself five minutes (or longer) to yourself to relax and meditate at the end of the day when your work is done.
- Little and often can be very effectiveEven five minutes of meditation a day can really have a positive effect on your life!
- Warm up a little before, chill out a little afterPrepare to sit with some stretches for the hips and easing out of stiff shoulders, give a bit of kindly attention to any tense places. Finish meditating in time for a cup of tea or even just a minute’s gazing out of the window doing nothing, before you go on with your day’s activities.
- A special placeIf you decide you’d like to meditate regularly at home, it can really help to sit in the same place in your home each time, and to create a bit of special atmosphere there, perhaps with a candle, some flowers and a picture that really inspires you. If your cushions or chair are sitting there ready for you, it saves a lot of time faffing about and you’re more likely to find yourself meditating regularly.
- Let go of expectationsHave faith in yourself and a sense of humour. There are all kinds of meditation experiences, just as there is a huge spectrum of human experience, from serene to grumpy, ecstatic to bored, blissfully clear to distracted from distraction by distraction. Don’t judge yourself as having ‘good’ or ‘bad’ meditations. Being aware of whatever is going on is what counts. And the cumulative effort you put in is what will really make a difference in your experience.
- Celebrate your progress!Meditation is conducive and supportive of positive change in your life, but be gentle with yourself, you may just not get enlightened overnight, (I’ve not yet met anyone who has!) Some old habits die hard, but bringing awareness to them, and cultivating an increasingly positive emotional attitude towards yourself, you can achieve great things for yourself. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step…
Selasa, 15 Januari 2008
7 Secrets Of Success From Watching Rocky
By: Zoe Routh
I don't even like boxing, but I got to tell you I learned a lot from Rocky and Sylvester Stallone about creating your own success.
In anticipation of the 6th sequel in the Rocky series, 'Rocky Balboa', my husband and I watched all five Rocky movies (one day we even watched four in a row!) to get up to speed with development of the character and his story. This is quite basic: underdog hero experiences tough times, receives a challenge that questions his manhood and sense of what is 'right' and 'wrong', intense training scenes showing incredible physique, and a close, tough fighting scene with a feel good 'victory' for Rocky - the 'people's hero'.
It's not the story line or the films themselves that are as much an inspiration as Sylvester's Stallone's own story of rags to riches as a punk, nobody actor and screenwriter to multimillionaire writer and director of one the most successful film series.With $106 left in his bank account, Stallone offered his script of 'Rocky' to various producers. He wanted to sell the script and star in the lead role. The producers rejected him as the lead but offered him $50 000 for the script. They did not think he was a bankable star -too ugly, too short, and talked too funny to be a good leading actor. They wanted to cast Ryan O'Neal, who enjoyed boxing, or Burt Reynolds or Paul Newman or Steve McQueen, or Al Pacino.
$50 000 was a lot of money considering he had so little cash and a pregnant wife to look after. However old Sly stuck to his guns, and refused to take the deal without the lead role. The bids for the script kept going up, but without the offer of the leading role. Stallone says of the negotiations,
"I made a simple declaration to my agent and whoever wanted to hear, that I would sooner burn the script, that I would sooner bury the script, that I would sooner put the script out to sea and blow it up than to have anyone else play Rocky. "If the price went up to half a million, if the price went up to a million, 'I said, 'No sale. ", Finally, the producers swung over to my side and used their influence to convince United Artists to take me on. The script went to Arthur Krim, Eric Pleskow, Mike Medavoy, and all the upper echelon of the United Artists organization and finally it came down, the word from above, that it was a "go" for one million dollars. Not a penny more, not a penny less. One million dollars!"
Rocky then won the Academy Best Picture award in 1976.
Ok so how does this help you on your own personal development journey you may well be asking? It's not as far-fetched as it may seem at first. Regardless of whether you like Rocky or not, there are some valued lessons from Rocky and old Sly about being the Director of your own Movie of Life.
1. Know that you are the Director of your own Life Movie.
When Stallone wrote Rocky, he wrote the role for himself. It was his story and it was his role. There was no way he was going to leave it for anyone else, even if the script was buried for lack of buyers. His commitment went beyond temptation to sell out - he had an unshakeable faith that this was the right thing to do for himself and for his life. The universe rewarded his clear and true intentions with massive rewards. For Stallone, it was never about the money - it was about the expression of his life's passion.
Imagine for one moment you can create your own world, just as Sylvester Stallone did in Rocky. This is the truth that Stallone knew and you need to embrace too: you are the DIRECTOR of your life. You ARE creating it every moment. You are the scriptwriter, director, producer and actor in the Movie of your Life. Many people however, are unconscious directors, believing that life just happens; they believe that they are bit actors in someone else's (God's? the government's? their parents'?) movie, with little say on direction, content, and genre of the movie's production.
To understand that you are the Director of your own Life Movie, you need to feel this conviction in your bones like Stallone - you have to know at a cellular level that you are in charge of the scripting, directing, production, and execution of your own Life Movie.
It's time now for you to claim your role as the Director of Your Life Movie and get on with living the coolest version of your life.
2. Pick the genre for your Life Movie.
Let your passion be your guiding force. Stallone explains how he discovered the passion that fuelled his success. He searched his feelings. He asked himself, "What did I really enjoy seeing up on the screen? I enjoyed heroism. I enjoyed great love. I enjoyed stories of dignity, of courage, of man's ability to rise above his station and take life by the throat and not let go until he succeeded." This was Rocky's story, and it was Stallone's too.
What do YOU wish to experience? What do you enjoy? What are your favourite movies and why?
How would you describe your life now? A tragedy? A comedy? An adventure? How would you like it to be from now on?
Knowing the overall theme and genre will guide you in the creative process.
3. Feelings make the blockbuster.
One of my employers once said, "if you can make them laugh and cry in one movie, you've got a winner." Movies that are successful are the ones that make you feel something deeply and strongly - whether that is joy, terror, exhilaration, inspiration, sadness or any combination of the above. A movie that plays your feelings like a fiddle is one that captures the hearts and imagination of its viewers.
Your life is like that too - it is the feelings that make for a good time or not. You choose experiences (consciously or not) that allow you to feel the whole gamut of human emotions. This is what we are here on the planet to do - to enjoy the ride of human feelings.
Sylvester Stallone was very clear on what he wanted his viewers to experience when he wrote Rocky: he wanted people to feel inspired by the little guy who triumphs despite the odds. Some of the other emotions he wanted people to experience were:
- Pathos - compassion for the poor downtrodden hero
- Suspense - will he fight? Who will he fight? How will he fight? Will he win?
- Inspiration -very funky music and cool training sessions showing the most inhuman training regimen - you try doing a one armed push up!
- Fear - will he get his face pushed backward through a chair? Will he get brain damage?
- Exhilaration - Rocky triumphs despite the odds, showing astonishing spirit and resilience
- Joy- Rocky wins and shares it all with the woman he loves.
What feelings do you want to experience in your Life Movie. Joy? Exhilaration? Freedom? Creativity? Passion? Curiosity? Insight? Inspiration? Fear? Horror? Pain? What have you experienced so far? Do you want more of the same or something different?
4. Write the script.
Knowing what he wanted to experience at the movies and the types of feelings he wanted viewers to feel, Stallone wrote the script to produce these results.
Write your Life Movie script. Pick a date in the future, maybe 5 years, or 10 years or 20 - whatever feels like fun to you, and write a text of what has happened in your Life Movie. Most important to include are the feelings you experienced throughout. Joy, challenge, exhilaration - write it all in vivid detail. Tell the story, put in plenty of detail in vibrant colours, textures, characters, tastes, smells - the more descriptive you can make the script, the easier it will be for it to translate in to reality.
Review the script once you have written it. How does it feel when you read it? Do you experience all the range of emotions you want? Does it feel exciting? Does it sound like a life worth living? If you have a resounding 'yes' as answer to each of those questions, then you are on a winner.
5. Get the music right.
Nothing brings to life a script more than the music. There was no coincidence that 'Eye of the Tiger' featured heavily in one of the Rocky movies. This was strong, heart-pounding music that makes you want to jump up and run up a big flight of stairs and do crazy upside down sit-ups. Check any Rocky fan's I pod, and they've got Eye of the Tiger on there for their gym workout.Pick music that evokes the feelings of your Life Movie. Play it often - in the car, at home, at the gym. This will keep you plugged in to the creation and production of your Life Movie.
6. Recruit a production team.
Very few movies are ever made just by one person. You need a whole team. You need people on your team that are in line with your vision, theme, and passion. If they are not a match, dump them from your crew.
Check to see if you have the right crew:
- Friends that support your goals or are on similar paths
- Family that is as excited as you are about the possibilities of your Life Movie
- A mentor to serve as a model - one that has done a similar movie and achieved the results you want
- A coach to guide you through the hurdles and setbacks and to point out how to improve (do I have to throw in the obvious Rocky coach, "Mickey" as the allusion here?!)
- Specialists in any technical area to bring out your best - business coach, accountant, financial planner, nutritionist, massage therapist, personal trainer, image designer, travel agent.
The crew is an incredibly important component to the successful production and delivery of your Life Movie. Make sure you get the right people on board.
7. Enjoy it.
Creating your Life Movie should be a joyful process. It is not just about getting to the end to press 'play'. The real joy is in the creative process, the delight and surprises and miracles that occur along the way as you commit to creating the masterpiece that is your life.
For more Stallone and Rocky wisdom, go to http://www.sylvesterstallone.com/ .
Cancer survivor Zoe Routh is the Head Coach at Inner Compass. Zoë helps personal development enthusiasts create their own best life using the law of attraction. Zoë is the author of ebook Absolute Productivity – a handbook for your personal and professional life. Sign up for Compass Bearings - a free monthly on line magazine for personal development enthusiasts who want easy new success strategies using the law of attraction. Get more free tips at www.innercompass.com.au
6 Tips for Improving Your Communication Style
By: Peter Murphy
How To Improve Communication Skills And Your Personal Style? Here are six tips for improving your communication style:
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
How To Improve Communication Skills And Your Personal Style? Here are six tips for improving your communication style:
- Knowing how to improve communication skills will come easier once you become aware of your own communication style.
Each person has a unique way of communicating. Listen to your own speech. What sorts of words do you use? Which sort of body language and what tone of voice are you using?
Now, think of someone who, in your opinion, is a good communicator. Compare your style to theirs. You’ve just taken an important first step in how to improve communication skills. - Now that you are aware of your own style, study the style of those around you. How do the most important people in your life converse? How do they say things? Look for approaches you can model and make your own.
- Adjust to the other styles of communication. Don’t think it is too late to change your way of conversing because it’s been years. You had to learn to communicate in the first place and you can unlearn certain behaviors or change them. Sometimes we get stuck in a communication rut.
A father once was having a hard time with his teenaged daughter. She was growing and he thought she didn’t tell him what was going on in her life. They were in a heated discussion when he asked, “Why didn’t you tell me?”
Her answer was that she had, but he was too busy lecturing her to hear her. He learned that adjusting his style to his daughter would involve listening first before jumping right into solving the problem. - To build rapport, during a conversation try and match the other person’s movements, posture and verbal style. Don’t do everything they do, but mirror one or two things. For example, if the person gives mostly short answers to questions, you follow suit.
Or, maybe they talk at a slower pace than you usually do-slow your speaking speed to match theirs. This may sound simplistic but it is a very potent way to make someone feel very relaxed and comfortable in your presence. - The way you communicate at home may not be the same as in a different environment. Make sure you change your style to suit the different setting. Some comments you might want to tell your best friend, in private.
Other things can be shared in a group setting. Learn how to improve communication skills by altering your style for the appropriate setting. Many of us know someone who offers far too much information in a group setting. - Don’t criticize others for communicating differently. If we all communicated in the same way, we’d soon be bored with each other.
Getting a good grasp of your communication style and finding ways to accommodate other peoples’ styles, is a good way to improve your communication skills.
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. This report reveals the secret strategies all high achievers use to communicate with charm and impact. Apply now because it is available for a limited time only at: www.howtotalkwithconfidence.com/report.htm
9 Characteristics Of Enthusiastic People
By: Ineke Van Lint
Nine Characteristics Of Enthusiastic PeopleEnthusiasm is passion. Enthusiasm is living your dream. Enthusiasm is a divine energy you will feel as a reward for pursuing your dreams and staying on your own path.
Someone who is earnestly looking for his mission, discovers it and lives it, will organize his entire life around this divine assignment. This person offers his talents to the world, betters his environment, adds his personal value to it, and ends up happy and satisfied.
The characteristics below help you recognize this person (or become one yourself!) :
1.Enthusiasm is the most obvious feature.
This person lives live fully, enjoys every moment, and lives in the present, radiating a lot of self-confidence. He knows he is valid part of the universe and feels appreciated and guided.
2.This person possesses a special driving force that guides her through the roadblocks.
He has access to an endless source of energy that lifts him above the masses. His energy level is much higher than average. People can notice he is being lifted up by a kind of light beam. He is very engaged, travels lightly and makes a delicate impression. He is convinced that any roadblocks can be overcome. Nothing stops him.
3. This person easily makes choices.
There is something guiding the course of his life, namely his mission, which he uses as a road map to find out where to go next and with whom. He can tell good company from bad company, unimportant matters from important matters. He doesn’t lose himself in irrelevant details but remains focused on his mission. He is guided by his inner voice, his intuition.
4. He dares to take risks.
He has the courage to finish the projects he started. He has the energy and wisdom to concretely manifest his ideas.
5. He possesses an extraordinary creativity, inspiring those people around him.
He has the ability to create and produce. He is capable of manifesting his thoughts: what is an idea today will become real within a few months or even earlier. He makes full use of his resources. He fully realizes his psychological and spiritual potential.
6. This person has a mysterious charisma.
People like to be near him, enjoy his high energy level and feel invigorated afterwards. People pick up some wisdom from him and feel better after meeting him.
7. He has an unwavering faith in the universe and in himself, as he too is part of this universe.
He is aware of spiritual law and lives according to them, consciously or unconsciously. He understands how his dreams and passions are the engine of his evolution and he knows the universe is organized such that it meets his needs. First and foremost he listens to his heart and follows its directions with faith and conviction.
8. This person exhibits a high level of dedication, gets fully engaged, and knows the universe to be his biggest and best partner.
He has a clear vision of his goal, does not get distracted, and uses his energy entirely towards the manifestation of his dreams. When he experiences fear, it does not paralyze him, but doubles his devotion. He knows fear is something you have to go through, he focuses on what is more important than his fear, and for this he can count on his inner strength and guidance.
9. He is original in his approach and experiences total freedom while fulfilling his mission.
He is aware of the fact that he is the co-creator of his life. He is not being lived, not warming the bench, not being afraid of what’s going to hit him next. On the contrary, he reflects about his future and takes all necessary action to effectively realize his desired future.
Someone who has found his mission and takes it to heart is someone who has deciphered the secret code of the soul. And he receives the corresponding gifts: a great deal of enthusiasm, an extraordinary creativity and deep satisfaction. He accepts these gifts gracefully and gratefully, and generously offers them to other people who cross his path. He is a shining light in the life of those who are so happy to have met him.
Join the enthusiastics yourself! Become a person happy to get out of bed in the mroning, ready to go on with your mission. It’s all about finding your passion and living it out! Get out of this life of misery, do what you like, do what feels good, have faith and start finally living your real life!
Written by Ineke Van Lint, psychologist. Find your passion and boost your life with enthusiasm. Live your life your way, full of joy and abundance . A brand new free ebook on htpp://www.theenthusiasm.com
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